My Protocols, Rules & Expectations.

Application Process

Application Form

I have developed an application form for a reason. There are many factors I need to take in to account when reviewing potential submissives and your response allows me to do this.

Things I look for in particular are your previous experience, type of activities you would like me to consider, if you have seen a Dominant previously. I may even contact them as a part of my vetting process.

My primary focus is always on maintaining my safety. Vetting is a part of this process.

If you have applied, it means you have done your own level of vetting. This is me doing the same thing.

If you do NOT pass my vetting, we will NOT be sessioning.

Also note, despite working independently; myself and other Dominas maintain a network. This is just one of the reasons we do that.

Deposits

If we have never sessioned before I will expect a deposit. This is to confirm your booking and to allow me to commence organising suitable venues, plan your experience etc.

I only accept digital deposits via Beem. You will not be meeting me in a darkened car park and passing me a brown envelope!

No deposit, no session. It’s a simple as that.

Deposits are also non-refundable. However they will be deducted from your overall experience tribute.

Cancellations

If you need to cancel or wish to reschedule I will expect to be informed at least 24 hours prior to our appointment.

Any time after this will make me believe that you are a timewaster and not worth my time or efforts.

I understand that seeing a Dominatrix can be a daunting experience, and once a deposit is made we can discuss any concerns or nerves you may have. I want our time to be enjoyable and relatively relaxed, I mean I still want you to retain some level of fear, but that is all a part of the experience!

But cancelling at the last minute, or not notifying me of your intension to not attend is a mark of disrespect.

This will be taken in to account should you make a future application to serve.

Inform Yourself

R.A.C.K

NOTE: There are a variety of factors which you need to take in to account. Before entering in to any activity you need to ensure that you have researched and understand the risks of partaking in that activity. Please, please consider them before you submit your Experience Request.

There will be a number of times where I will ask and confirm that you understand fully the potential consequences associated with each of the activities you have indicated you would like to explore.

I maintain my own risk management plan which I am happy to share with you, if you need a prompt.

I WILL NOT PARTAKE IN ANY ACTIVITY WHICH I CONSIDER TO BE A RISK TO THE SAFETY OF MYSELF OR OTHERS.

Your Responsibilities

Please take into consideration.

Your prior experience in the activities you have identified as wishing to explore

Your physical well-being; injuries, mobility issues, medical concerns.

Your psychological well-being; mental health issues, stress levels, medication, your care strategy.

What you will be doing before any potential session

What you have planned after your potential session

Anything which may potentially trigger past traumas

Anything which only you will know which will heighten the risk of long term physical or psychological harm,

Drugs & Alcohol

If you have consumed alcohol in the past 3 hours, I WILL NOT SESSION WITH YOU.

If you have taken drugs in the previous 2 hours, I WILL NOT SESSION WITH YOU.

If you are taking medication which makes you drowsy, numb to pain or impacts your ability to communicate coherently, I WILL NOT SESSION WITH YOU.

If I suspect that you have partaken in illegal activities

I WILL NOT SESSION WITH YOU.

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Safe Words

Communication is important in scene, particularly if you feel like you are close to your threshold, such as in an impact scene. In which case you will make use of the agreed verbal and non-verbal protocols:

Verbal

Yellow - Things are getting a little close to your threshold and you need a break from that activity.
Red - Your threshold has been reached. Red means STOP! The scene will end and actions will be taken to ensure that you return to an acceptable level of comfort.

Non- Verbal

There may be times, where as part of the negotiated scene, where you may be restrained in such a way as to restrict your ability to communicate verbally, for example when wearing a gag or a gas mask. In such cases I will give you something to hold in your hand such as a squeaky toy or a coloured piece of material. If you are getting close to a Yellow level threshold, I will pause the scene and address your concerns.

It is my job to ensure that you never need to utter these words. I will be constantly monitoring your reactions to various stimuli and will adapt as necessary to make sure that you remain safe and within the agreed levels. However, I will remind you of these protocols prior to the commencement of our session.

Positions

In the introductory part of our session I will place you in to my required commencement position. In Gor this is know as Nadu. It is a position which signifies readiness to serve.

You will remain in this position until I instruct otherwise. It allows me to finish setting the room, equipment and implements which may be required.

At the end of our scene I will place you in humble position, this will allow me to remove your collar and many find it a peaceful and restful position to slowly come out of subspace.

Whilst in this position I will get you a drink of water and perhaps something sugary or sweet. This position signifies that our scene has ended.

Acknowledgement of Risk

As part of the pre-session negotiation we will review your session request application, the agreed upon areas of focus, update any medical issues which may have occurred during the lead up to the session, as well as ensure that you are aware of the traffic light process (see Safewords)

Before we move on to the session proper I will require your signature to confirm that you have informed yourself of the associated risks and the processes and protocols in place to ensure we have taken into account all factors which you have highlighted prior to commencing play.

My Rules & Protocols

Address Me Correctly

I have been involved in kink for over 25 years. A lot has changed since then, but the very first Mistress I served (yes, I did once kneel in your place) was borne from the classical school of Domination. She too had once knelt before a Mistress and the protocols and behaviours which she learnt in doing so became the foundations for her own style.

This too has become my style.

You will always address me as Mistress. If you are fortunate enough to be invited in to the presence of other Domina’s you will address me as Mistress Seraphique. You will similarly address my guest Domina by her full title as well.

Note: The ‘M’ in Mistress is always capitalised.

Listen & Obey

The exchange of power in a session is paramount to our shared experience.

I do not accept brats, and nor do I accept those who are prone to ‘Top from the Bottom’.

If I give you instruction it is to be obeyed. I will never do anything to cause you long term harm or injury and as I will constantly be observing changes in your body language and verbal and non-verbal reactions to whatever specific activity we may be involved in.

Communicate Clearly

You will communicate clearly.

At times I may apply speech restrictions, this may be a part of a negotiated scene or it could be because you are being verbally disobedient.

However, if I ask you a question I will expect a clear and honest answer.

Communication is also important in scene if you feel like you are close to your threshold. See ‘Safe Words’

Social Media Channels

I am on a number of social media channels and I am more than happy for you to follow and interact with my posts.

In fact I encourage you to follow me on social media because you will get a glimpse in to my Domina life, my availability, my upcoming travel etc.

I will NOT however enter in to long private conversations. If you wish to engage me in other than pleasantries or to ask me a relevant question, then I will expect a tribute. Although my social accounts are free, my time isn’t.

Kink Events

If you encounter me at a kink event please come and say hello. I am not as cruel and demanding outside of sessions, unless you have pissed me off for some reason.

However, I will not ‘scene’ with you at these events, unless by prior arrangement and a suitable tribute has been provided for my time and efforts (see Build Your Experience page for more details).

If you do see me at an event, remember to be respectful. I will be socialising with friends and hopefully enjoying some Me time.

All Other Occasions

If you see me anywhere else in public, YOU MUST NOT approach me. Even if we have previously sessioned.

I respect your privacy and would never approach you in a public setting so I expect the same level of respect.

I have many friends and family who understand that being a Dominatrix is part of my life, I am not ashamed of the services I provide, however, there is still a high degree of societal stigma around BDSM in general.

This is a hard rule. Just don’t do it.

Finally….

I COMMAND YOU TO HAVE FUN!

Ok, maybe not command you, but our time together should be fun for both of us. I am not a strict punishment, shouty Domina, despite my foundations in protocol and classical standards (as well as my time in the military, which incidentally is also where my gas mask fetish developed)

Shouting requires a lot of energy and I would rather expend that energy in more pleasurable pursuits.

My goal in developing your requested experience is to help you achieve just the right level of serotonin and dopamine to give you a content, happy and enjoyable feeling. Finding how we get you to that point and the experimentation and manipulation of sensations is what makes the exploration of your kinks and fetishes so enjoyable.

Our time together will be dependent on the energy we bring to the session. It is therefore important for you to think about what your day looks like both before and after session and take the necessary steps to make sure you bring your whole self to ensure you can stay in the moment.

I will likewise plan out my day, in fact my activities the evening before will be included in that plan.

It’s also important to consider what you will be doing afterwards. In achieving a serotonin/dopamine fuelled high at some stage the effects are going to wear off.

Do some research in to ‘Sub Drop’ and plan accordingly. I will likely check in on you the day after our session just to make sure you are ok and to talk through anything which may have been brought up during our time together.